In Leave Better Than Found, I talk a little bit about goals and how I believe that people need to relieve themselves of setting a ton of goals each year. I am not completely opposed to goals and I do believe every person needs to have a direction of where they want to go- but I think it’s more important to have an understanding of WHO you want to be. What are the core values that make you who you are? Chances are, if you have strong core values and you commit to those values day in and day out- the results in your life (the outcomes) will take care of themselves.
So many people are so focused on achieving their long list of goals and whether they achieve them or not then determines their value as an individual (how they see themselves) and how they act towards other people. The person that they are changes whether they win or lose a game; whether they finish a deal or not. I can hear people arguing in their head right now, “Well, results matter” – believe me I totally get that. I am as competitive as any person around, but what I’m saying is who you are as an individual (what’s on the inside- your effort, your attitude, and how you treat others) can’t constantly be in eb and flow with your outside circumstances and results. If it does, you are going to constantly feel unsatisfied, unhappy, and never at peace. It’s important to be competitive, and feeling upset is a natural reaction, but a result shouldn’t define who you are- good or bad.
If you are looking for more in your life, it doesn’t start with setting bigger goals and focusing on results and outside circumstances, it starts with understanding who you are on the inside and striving to become the best version of you each and every day. This isn’t soft, and it’s not letting you or the people you lead off the hook- it’s actually holding them to a higher daily standard of accountability. When you only focus on your goals, it’s easy to take a few days off and let yourself off the hook, but when you focus on a daily standard- daily commitments- on becoming the best version of yourself each and every day you have the opportunity to take yourself to levels higher than any goal.